tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-801873645877244873.post2457167555562334753..comments2024-03-16T16:43:13.585-04:00Comments on thoughts & ramblings: What You Need To Know About Infidelity and Mate SelectionZack Hemseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15583382768263193839noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-801873645877244873.post-14980005224844732752013-08-11T23:49:20.443-04:002013-08-11T23:49:20.443-04:00Yes, this shares the same spirit with the last pos...Yes, this shares the same spirit with the last post - I consider them parts of a larger piece. Of course, the conclusions reached should be completely obvious and unnecessary to speak on, but incredibly there still seem to be a disturbing amount of people who don't seem to grasp them.<br /><br />Regarding the statistics you cite, I wouldn't get carried away here. For starters, such statistics are based on voluntary accurate reporting, and in that regard I think women are less likely to honestly admit to being unfaithful than men (possibly due to the difference in how society treats male and female adulterers - women are sluts and whores, whereas men are just men who can't help themselves - and this double standard is burned into the psyche of both genders). I would bet money that if a study were done on whether or not people answer honestly on studies dealing with infidelity, that you would find a higher percentage of men claim to answer honestly compared to women. Maybe such a study already exists…?<br /><br />That aside, note that while the study you reference does indicate that more men cheat compared to women, this is certainly not by a landslide. There's a mere 3% difference regarding those who admit to having committed infidelity in a past relationship, and 6% difference on those who would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught. That's pretty negligible as far as I'm concerned, especially when the stats in question are above 50% values. Having said that, even if the difference was higher, and even if we discounted all concerns about women reporting honestly on this issue, drawing the conclusion that men are more likely to cheat would be of no practical use anyway, because such would not be helpful whatsoever in determining if this particular woman or that particular man will actually cheat! If the statistics show that both genders cheat, then the frequency therein is pretty irrelevant…unless such differences are extreme, which it turns out they are not in this case.<br /><br />So I don't think men as a whole view relationships differently. I think every category of male adulterer has a female counterpart in the world. And I think our culture has a gap in it's understanding of the issue, a partial blindness toward it's occurrence, and a bias in how it characterizes those who behave in such ways.Zack Hemseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15583382768263193839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-801873645877244873.post-82277718357002226542013-08-11T09:29:08.130-04:002013-08-11T09:29:08.130-04:00Good point. This seems pretty similar to your last...Good point. This seems pretty similar to your last post in the way that it criticizes generalizing and stereotypes. Not all men cheat. Not all Mexicans in America jumped the border. Not all British drink evening tea. It all comes down to a broader world view of equality and unity.<br /><br />If a man is cheating (and I'm not saying he is correct in doing so) then he has a reason for doing it! He's not just doing it because he's a man! Many men have better things to do than cheat on their spouse. You can't use this sort of demented circular reasoning to justify anything.<br /><br />That being said, a higher percentage of men cheat than women according to these statistics. http://www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics/ I'm no expert in psychology or neurology, but men obviously view relationships differently than women.<br /><br />One thing is sure as hell thought: Nowhere in the statistics did it say that all men cheat.Ralianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08423630079290598552noreply@blogger.com